In the South murder rates are higher among people who know each other, but property and "stranger" crimes, like muggings, are lower. "The statistics show that the Southerner who can avoid arguments and adultery is as safe as any other American, probably safer," says sociologist John Shelton Reed in "Outliers." Gladwell says that Southerners live in a culture of honor. There is great respect for other people, as in "Southern hospitality," just don't question a Southerners honor. It's taken very seriously.
It is into this "culture of honor" that I married and I'm struggling to keep up with the code. Welcome to the South.